In 1992, Dr. Gary Chapman identified the five love languages, which are different ways of expressing and receiving love. The love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. The love language personality test is popular for multiple reasons. First, there are only five languages, and each category is easy to understand. The assessment is also key to understanding yourself. Many people never think about how they want to receive or express love. The love languages can also help your relationships by better understanding your spouse, partner, colleague, or friend. This knowledge can make it easier to respect, sympathize, and connect in your relationships every day. There is no right or wrong. Differences are natural and okay. The languages can be used in your romantic, social, business, and finance relationships. If you are interested in taking the test, it can be easily found on the internet by typing “The Love Language Quiz” into Google.
– Hunter
YOUR LIFE
Not everyone communicates love in the same way, and people have different ways they prefer to receive love. Although these languages are often discussed in romantic relationships, they could easily be applied to money and finances.
Words of affirmation; Just as coaches in the gym help you map out your goals and celebrate wins, a financial coach can provide support and encouragement.
Physical touch; If this is your love language, you might prefer to be in touch with your money, literally. That could mean always having cash in your wallet or writing physical checks, rather than just swiping a credit card.
Acts of service; Do you love paying for services to make your life easier, like a house cleaner or gardener? If yes, it is important to make room in your spending plan, so money can support you in this way.
Quality time; Try scheduling a recurring date with yourself or your advisor, to dedicate time to make sure your current financial plan is aligned with your goals.
Gifts; Treat yourself after reaching a financial goal. Like a new pair of shoes, or dinner out at your favorite restaurant. Whether it’s to build your emergency fund or pay off debt, find a reward that will keep you motivated to stay on track.
– Kaylyn
YOUR LEGACY
After taking the test, my results show that I’m split between quality time and physical touch. I’ve found that quality time is a cornerstone of my personal and client relationships because it entails undivided, focused attention and employment of uninterrupted, empathetic listening. When you set time aside to spend time with someone, and are actually present and focused on them, they feel loved. This love language requires collaboration because you must plan part of your day with the other person, and you both must be totally focused on each other. It does not have to be a long commitment, even five to ten minutes can be enough uninterrupted time — time where you’re really connecting over the little things in each other’s lives. Quality time isn’t just being physically present with the other person; it’s engaging and being intentional about how you spend that time learning about the person’s life, family, personal, or career goals. Some people may find that rather than leaving money to a loved one, they would rather leave memories, by planning special trips together. Think of someone you haven’t spent quality time with recently, maybe because of Covid or a really busy schedule. Now reach out to that person. Set up a lunch. Plan a game of golf or tennis. Find time for a coffee date, or breakfast on the weekend. Go on a walk together. It might mean moving things around in your schedule, but it will be worth it!
– Andrew
